Thursday, May 04, 2006

Children Psychology 101

Yesterday, when Haida sent Indah to her kindergarten, one of the teacher called Haida to discuss on Indah recent development.

She told Haida that lately Indah’s has an attitude problem.
Cepat merajuk, nak suruh buat keja kena pujuk, suka menangis, tak nak makan, suka carik perhatian and so on.

And usually, this behaviour is as a result of the mother is expecting.

Wow!! Terelnye cikgu dia. I guess cikgu tadika boleh nampak ek…Budak yang tetiba berubah.

I was very touched to hear that. Sampai rasa nak balik terus rumah semalam to be with Indah, to make her feel that we love her, and to correct her perception.

Memang la, as of late, Haida kurengg sket ngan Indah. Morning sickness yang teruk, sampai kena gi klinik sbb tak makan and minum. Morning sickness yang tak mengenal morning. Banyak jugak case morning sickness yang tak terjadi on morning only.

So, I guess Indah need love.
So, when I reached home yesterday, the first thing I did was hug her. I gave her very special attention, and talk her thru her problem in school. Suruh dia janji jangan naughty and nangis and jadi good girl.

I will monitor her for this few weeks…
And kena bagi attention lebih sket. Also need to make her understand that ummi ‘sakit’/ ‘tak sihat’

Sian Indah………

6 comments:

Bamboo Stick said...

Yea...it's true. You need to pay more attention to Indah. Jangan sampai jadi macam I. I used to hate my brother till I masuk Form 6. You know why? Sebab I used to be anak tunggal till 5 years old and only my brother came to this world. I used to be pampered alot by my papa, mama and grandpa and all the love and attention are on me. I nak langit..I dapat langit...I nak bintang..I dapat bintang. But after my brother came to this world, everything changed. I am not their favourite anymore and my jealousy increased time-by-time. I hated my brother and hated my parents as well. My parents tak pandai jaga perasaan I kot...
So..Pian...try to talk more to Indah and alwayz remind her that the LOVE upon her will not change. Good luck!

Nanot said...

Good luck Pyan. As for me I guess with Fikry I have no problems, coz he prefers me to his dad. It is understandable because his dad is garang and selalu takde kat rumah. So altho he's our one and only, he knows he can bank on his mom for love.

So between me and my hubby we have this common understanding that if (kalau ada rezeki) the 2nd one comes, he/she (i hope it's a he coz I love boys) will be daddy's baby. In that sense, Fikry will not feel there is a change and he will love the fact that his bro/sis is his play-mate and not his rival.

However knowing that my hubby is not gonna be there all the time, I guess I will have to 'split' my attention for both of them, but bearing in mind that Fikry is my top priority. I believe that the 2nd one would not miss what he doesn't have (and that is sole attention). I will also teach Fikry not to give-in to the smaller one just becuase he is older, coz I think it's unfair. It's not teaching him to be selfish, but teaching him to be a go-getter and he needs to reason to his brother why he does not have to give-in. (Communication)

Being the first and tunggal-tak-jadi is very hard and I respect that fact. So good luck Pyan....it's not just loads of love that Indah needs, but you guys need to respect her feelings too.

JohnLabu said...

bapak indah yang bagi ummi sakit/tak sihat.. babapppp bapak indah :P

Setinggan Overfloor said...

memang ko patut rasa bersalah pun pyan...ko sbb kan umi dia kena penyakit...memang ko kena tanggungjawab..muahahahahaahh...

abu_harraz said...

tapii encik...saya tak bersalah..dia yang mintak...
saya kata jangan...jangan...tapi...saya terpaksa akur.....
muahahahahahahaa

kayutiga said...

budak kecik ni..benda kecik pun dia akan inagt sampai besar..so kena jaga sikit feelings dia..takut nanti dia ungkit ballik bila besar..mcm bamboo stick..hehhe