i have always believe that a man can befriends a woman without much problem. as long as we know who and where we are, and we are being honest. we only have to compromise and understand each other in the relationship.
platonic relationship maybe? not to that point for me. it was.( 4 years ago). but not now. not anymore.
i always put my wife and family as numero uno. top priority. can't someone understand that?
why would an old friend (or best friend as she describe) still have problem with this? i really tot this is a common understanding between us.
i'm a type of people who highly value friendship. however my wife is not keen for me to maintain the same friendship with this particular woman (i understand her jealousy..berasas la jugak. my friend ni is single mingle and intelligent. eventhough i have reason out with her, she is still not comfortable with my relationship with my friend ni. tapi takde la sampai dia melarang)
tapi..susah la nak lupakan member baik. my wife main reason is simple and undoubtly valid. i once pernah tertarik dgn this woman. tapi kalau my wife paham apa yg i rasa skang, dia tak perlu risau lah. anyway.....
but this friend of mine, despite her understanding in platonic relationship or man&woman as good friends or whatever you call it, she really dissappoint me. deep inside i feel hurt..betrayed..as if she doesn't understand my situation, my limitation, my sacrification, my risk etc. i always tot friends do not remain together...friendship does.
o.k lah, i know that she was angry because she feels that i'm cheating my wife. why can't i make my wife understand? but as mentioned, i couldn't. only for this particular friend, she will not give her 'consent'.
i guess this relationship susah nak continue. May be Allah pun tak berapa suka sbb I'm being a bit liberal in this case. may be i have to draw the line somewhere.
to my friend, if you read this...pls understand that i have nothing against you. nothing. maybe I have to really understand who I am now. I just want to say how i feel.
Thanks for putting me into your bestfriend list. I'm highly honoured because bukan senang nak masuk list tu (according to you lah). and i bukan nak kuar dari list tu, but just to set the expectation right.....
Still friends.......? ;) to me its clear....crystal.
so let's remain kjj - kawan jarak jauh. rest assured , if you need my help, emotionally, intellectually, physically (korang jgn pk bukan2, ni kira macam keta rosak ke, angkat barang ke), economically, i'll do my best to help. my wife pun ok kalau bab tolong menolong ni. ;)